Feeling vs Thinking: What Are Values?

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In personality theory, people flippantly throw terms around like everyone knows what theyโ€™re talking about. Many terms are vague or confusing, due to either the lack of a concrete explanation or the fact that the word is no longer being used in its literal sense. Typology enthusiasts often inadvertently redefine terms slowly, overtime, so that they lose touch with their literal meaning. They may prescribe additional meaning to certain words or a more narrowed meaning, affectively changing the definition. Either way, confusion and misconceptions ensue.

Intuition is a prime example. Intuition in personality theory does not mean the same thing as the everyday word. As a result, people mistakenly assume they are intuitives, because they have decent intuition.

โ€œValuesโ€ is a word often used in relation to feelers, but itโ€™s rarely actually explained in a concrete manner. In this article, I aim to explain what they actually are, how the term is used incorrectly, and how it really relates to the 16 personality types.

Some Definitions

โ€œValues are individual beliefs that motivate people to act one way or another. They serve as a guide for human behavior.โ€
https://ethicsunwrapped.utexas.edu/glossary/values

โ€œthe principles that help you to decide what is right and wrong, and how to act in various situations:
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/values

โ€œCore values are the fundamental beliefs of a person or organization. These guiding principles dictate behavior and can help people understand the difference between right and wrong.โ€
https://examples.yourdictionary.com/examples-of-core-values.html

Understanding Values

Most people typically tie โ€œvaluesโ€ to oneโ€™s moral framework, and even use the word interchangeably with โ€œmorals.โ€ This is understandable given the above definitions, but they are two different things.

This article explains the difference quite well: https://liveboldandbloom.com/10/self-improvement/morals-vs-values

In short, morals are rules for behavior that are often based on values. Values themselves are more abstract. As per the article above, โ€œthe values you were born with compel you to do one thing rather than another, based on whatโ€™s more important to you. โ€ฆValues come from within and serve as intrinsic motivators.โ€

Examples

Examples are useful to gain a realistic understanding, so Iโ€™m providing a list of example values below, which I obtained from here: https://examples.yourdictionary.com/examples-of-core-values.html. Of course, this list doesnโ€™t begin to account for all of them.

  • commitment
  • compassion
  • concern for others
  • consistency
  • courage
  • dependability
  • enthusiasm
  • fearlessness
  • friendliness
  • good humor
  • honesty
  • honor
  • independence
  • integrity
  • kindness
  • loyalty
  • open-mindedness
  • optimism
  • perseverance
  • pragmatism
  • positivity
  • reliability
  • respect

Applying Values to Personality Theory

Each of the 16 personality types is built on a set of four cognitive functions. These cognitive functions represent cognitive preferences. Essentially, values would be something that your cognitive framework leads you to find important or put value on. Remember: a โ€œpersonality typeโ€ in this context isnโ€™t really a true personality type, since personality encompasses far more than this theory actually defines. What it does define is a default way of thinking, or an individualโ€™s mentality. Certain mentalities are conducive to certain values.

For instance, a Si-Te user (or ISTJ), often values predictability. They want to know what to expect or whatโ€™s coming so that they can be prepared. They will also value it as a way to better optimize based off of consistent, repeatable results. So, it could be said that predictability is common a Si-Te value.

Of course, people are unique, and that isnโ€™t in dispute. Every individual will hold different values. There are really two main points here that we want to make:

1. Every person has values, regardless of their personality type or moral development
2. Certain values are common to certain personality types due to their intrinsic cognitive preferences

Naturally, people can claim to have any value they want, but ultimately your true values will compel you to act in a certain way. If a โ€œvalueโ€ isnโ€™t doing that, then it isnโ€™t really a value that you hold.

Feelers and Values

Feeling (whether Fi or Fe) has been closely tied to values, creating a common misconception that only feelers have values and morals. They say that feelers make decisions based on values, while thinkers make decisions based on logic. However, that is a gross oversimplification, because no individual can truly make a decision separate from their values, and even the most emotional individual uses some form of logic to rationalize their actions. (There are always exceptions, but generally speaking, this is true.)

Values have been overly associated with feelers, but there is a reason for it. Many feelers, understandably so, get frustrated with being defined as weepy or overly emotional. However, defining โ€œfeelingโ€ as the sole source of values is just as incorrect as saying that feelers are innately more emotional than thinkers. It is more correct to say that feelers often have a conscious focus on defining their values, because they use them as rationale, to measure worth and importance.

For instance, Fi (or Introverted Feeling) is about having a close connection to oneโ€™s personal feelings which in turn often provokes high Fi users to form very deeply felt, nuanced values that they may frame in a moralistic way.

Feeling vs. Thinking

Feelers naturally focus on feeling-based data. This doesnโ€™t make them innately more emotional than anyone else. Rather, they place value on subjective or personal data, meaning data that relates to people or individuals. They focus on the human element. In contrast, thinkers focus on impersonal information, like facts and numbers. This is why youโ€™re more likely to get statistics or random data out of an XSTJ, while an XSFJ will know things like birthdays and peopleโ€™s likes and dislikes.

Thinkers typically strive to make decisions detached from emotions and feeling-based data. Of course, this doesnโ€™t mean that they always succeed, and even if they did, it wouldnโ€™t always be a good thing. Emotional data is valuable data, and people should always be factored into the equation. However, many thinkers donโ€™t see it that way, and view people as unpredictable, irrational entities that usually just get in the way of whatever system theyโ€™re trying to implement. Generally speaking, itโ€™s accurate to say that thinkers focus on impersonal or objective data, which they use to order the world, or systematize their understanding of the world.

This is why people associate science and math professions with Thinkers, while assuming Feelers will prefer humanitarian careers. There is a likely a trend here, but it is not an absolute rule. Weโ€™ve known feelers to go into the sciences, and thinkers to go into people-focused careers. As we have said many times, an individualโ€™s personality type is determined by the rationale for their actions, and not the actions themselves, because it is a mentality.

In Conclusion

Every individual has values, or principles, that guide their behavior. If youโ€™re unsure of what yours are, you have a subconscious connection to them, rather than a conscious one. Figuring out what those are may actually be useful if youโ€™re struggling to determine your type, since theyโ€™ll reveal what you truly find to be important or motivating.

Feel free to share some of yours in the comments below, along with your personality type, if you know it!

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